Stilhed!

Beccys place November challance is on... To days letter is "H".

H= Horizon. I think it looks cold! The ice bergs look like Greenland. Where Danes believe Santa comes from.

Nice to be able to report that it has been "almost" quiet here at home.

Lars visited Skejby University Hospital where he spoke to a specialist in neurology. The hospital in Randers, where we live, and where Lars is hospitalized when he gets sick, had asked the doctors in Skejby to assess whether or nat, there was anything they could help.

As expected, the answer was that there was not anything we coul do! We spoke openly with the specialist about our attitude to the end of life: that there should be no unnecessary treatment, for example in the case of cardiac arrest, pneumonia, etc. that is, if the future is only to lay like a "vegetable".

We told him, that we have found the place where Lars would like to be buried, and that we are know that the  diagnoses he has, are all life-shortening. The doctor then told us, that it will be the liver that will end Lars' sufflerings.  

After the we drove to Lars' sister Inger. Lars didn't know that. It was nice to be able to surprise him. It was so good to see Inger again.

The week after Lars and I had been to Skejby University Hospital, I sat there myself, together with my daughter-in-law.  I went here to find out,  if I should have another operation for the new 3 herniated discs that I have. They have chosen not to operate. An operation with stiffening my bag, will not have much chance of success, and the pain will probably only get worse. I was really happy that my daughter-in-law Mia was with me. It gave the opportunity to talk about it afterwards.

Right before we went out the door, after the consultation, the specialist gave me some advice. looked me in the eye as he said: 

Do the things Lars wants, NOW. Later it is too late.

This is good advice for all of us. Enjoy the time together - do what makes you happy, what builds you up, what strengthens you. Create memories. Make a difference - before it's too late.

Hej
Dejligt at kunne berette at der næsten har været stille herhjemme.
Lars har været på besøg på Skejby Universitets Hospital hvor han snakkede med en speciallæge i Nerologi. Sygehuset i Randers, hvor vi bor, og hvor Lars er indlagt når han bliver syg, havde bedt lægerne i Skejby om at vurdere om der var noget som de kunne hjælpe.

Som forventet blev svaret at det var der ikke. Vi talte åbent med lægen om vores holdning til livets afslutning: at der ikke skal være unødig behandling, f.eks ved hjertestop, lungebetændelse ect. hvis fremtiden kun er at ligge som en "grøntsag".
Vi fortalte at vi har fundet det sted hvor Lars gerne vil begraves, og at vi er afklaret med, at de mange diagnoser han har, alle er livsforkortende. Overlægen sagde derpå, at det vil være leveren som tager livet af Lars til sidst. 
Som en overraskelse kørte vi efter samtalen ud til Lars' søster Inger. Lars vidste det ikke. Det var dejlig endelig at kunne overraske ham. Ligeledes var det dejlig at se Inger igen.

Ugen efter Lars og jeg havde været på  Skejby Universitets Hospital, sad jeg der selv, sammen med min svigerdatter.  Jeg skulle have af vide om jeg skulle opereres igen for de nye diskusprolaps som jeg har fået. Det har man valgt ikke at gøre. En operation med stivgørelse vil ikke have stor chance for at lykkes, og smerterne vil med sandsynlighed blot blive værre. Jeg var rigtig glad for at min svigerdatter Mia, var med mig. Det gav mulighed for at snakke om det bagefter.

Lige til sidst:
På vej ud af døren efter konsultationen om Lars, gav Overlægen mig et råd. Han så mig i øjnene, medens han sagde: 

Gør de ting Lars gerne vil, NU. Senere er det for sent.

Det er et godt råd for os alle. Nyd tiden sammen - gør hvad gør dig/jer glad, hvad der opbygger dig/jer, hvad der styrker dig/jer. Skab minder. Gør en forskel - før det er for sent.