Et svært og alligevel et let indlæg

 

String Candle, old digi-stamp from  Beccys Place

This is probably one of the hardest blog posts I've made in a while. 

    Here at home we are very open about what is happening with Lars, everyone knows it, family members, our doctor, helpers etc.

    What we haven't told you, the readers, is that Lars has had blood in his urine for almost 3 months. A visit to the hospital changed our lives -  for a while.

    The head doctor told us that we shouldn't expect Lars would live, come Christmas.

    A bit of a message, since we had previously been told that he had about 2 years.

    Lars has opted out of all treatment now. Only what is needed to function in everyday life.

    This decision was made before the message at the hospital, but was further cemented based on the message he received from the head doctor.

We as a family probably felt that at the beginning it was right. Lars lost 6.5 kg in 10 days. He became a shadow of what he used to be.

But that changed. He had something he wanted to do - before it ended here on earth.

    Among other things, his greatest wish was to come to the Temple on Priorvej in Copenhagen one last time. Our son-in-law made it possible by driving Lars, Kami and I the long way to Copenhagen - and back home, the same day. It's a trip we still talk about . We will for ever be grateful to Aske and Kami for driving, and for their help throughout the day. An eternal memory was created this day.

    The trip did something for Lars. It gave him a light, a hope for experiences that were still possible.

    Lars woke up - and doubts about whether it was the right prognosis for the future crept under our skin. Yes, Lars IS sick, we know that. But the chief physician's words that we would be lucky if he was here for Christmas? Was it true?

    We know his time on earth is limited; but it really is for all of us: none of us knows the day we will leave here.

    Our daughter-in-law has been to doctor's appointments with Lars and me. I need extra ears to hear, so that I don't misunderstand - and so that I don't give the wrong information to the family - and you . In the future, Mia will therefore also read through my posts so that they are correct. Not that they weren't before, but the time ahead will be difficult, and it may be difficult to remember everything, and perhaps put things together correctly, because emotions will be put to the test even more.

    On Wednesday, our GP was at our home together with Home Care, Mia and Inger. Our general practitioner, Dr. Otto does not see Lars as terminal. He does not think that you can say that he is not here for Christmas - nor that he is! Everything is on the table, you can not promise anything - because Lars, like all of us, can be affected by an infection or something similar that he cannot fight. So, to set an timetable - it is difficult.

    It was a relief beyond comparison. It confirmed our growing gut feeling that the time frame was wrong. It was also confirmed that Lars decides whether he wants to be treated or not, should it become necessary to hospitalize him.

It was officially decided that Mia or Lars' sister Inger (if it is possible for one of them), will go with us to the doctor or hospital. It is also written in his medical record. It is a fantastic relief. We have 100% trust in them. Knowing that they'll be there is the best gift we could get.

Finally:

Lars is doing well, he has no pain, and is happy..

What I have learned:

Live life, Appreciate the gift that life is. Take advantage of its opportunities at all times.

We believe in a life after this, but that does not mean that we should not live life here. We should EXPLOIT life, LIVE life, APPRECIATE life and everything it gives.

But most of all: Love each other, tell it to eachother! Appreciate the gift that is being able to share love with each other, family and friends.

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Dette er nok en af det sværeste, og det med hjertet letteste blog-post jeg har lavet længe.

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    Herhjemme er vi meget åbent om hvad der sker med Lars, det ved alle, læge, hjælpere osv.

    Hvad vi ikke har fortalt jer, læserne, er at Lars har haft blod i hans urin i snart 3 måneder. Et besøg på sygehuset, forandrede vores liv, for en stund.

    Overlægen fortalt at vi ikke skulle forvente at have Lars til jul. Lidt af en besked, eftersom vi tidligere havde fået af vide, at han have omk. 2 år.

    Lars har fravalgt al behandling nu. Kun lige det som skal til for at fungere i dagligdagen. Denne beslutning var truffet før beskeden på sygehuset, men blev yderligere cementeret på baggrund af den besked som han fik af overlægen.

    Vi som familie følte nok, i begyndelsen af den var rigtig.  Lars tabte sig 6.5 kg på 10 dage. Han blev en skygge af hvad han plejede at være. Men det forandrede sig. Han havde ting som han gerne ville - før det var slut her på jorden.

    Bl.a. var hans største ønske at komme til Templet på Priorvej i København en sidste gang. Vores svigersøn gjorde det muligt, ved at køre Lars, Kami og jeg, den lange vej til København - og hjem igen, den samme dag.

Det er en tur vi stadig snakker om. Vi vil for altid være Aske og Kami taknemmelig for at køre, og for deres hjælp igennem hele dagen. Der blev skabt et evigt minde denne dag.

    Turen gjorde noget andet for Lars. Det gav ham et lys, et håb om oplevelser, som stadig var muligt.

    Lars livede op - og tvivl om det var den rette fremtids prognose krøb ind under huden. Jo, Lars ER syg, det ved vi. Men overlægens ord om, at vi skulle være heldige hvis han var her til jul? Var den rigtig?

Vi ved hans tid på jorden er begrænset; men det er den egentlig for os alle: ingen af os kender den dag vi skal afsted herfra.

    Vores svigerdatter har været med til lægesamtaler. Jeg har brug for ekstra ører til at høre, så jeg ikke misforstår - og så jeg ikke kommer til at give forkerte oplysninger til familien  - og jer. Fremover, vil Mia også gennemlæse mine indlæg, så de er rigtige. Ikke at de ikke var det før, men tiden fremover, vil blive svær, og det kan være svært at huske alt, og måske sætte tingene rigtig sammen, fordi følelserne blive endnu mere sat på prøve.

    Onsdag var vores praktiserende læge hjemme hos os sammen med Hjemmeplejen, Mia og Inger. Vores praktiserende læge, Dr. Otto, ser ikke Lars som terminal. Han mener ikke, at man kan sige, at han ikke er her til jul - og heller ikke at han er! Alt er på bordet, man kan ikke love noget - for Lars kan, ligesom os alle, blive ramt af en infektion eller lignende, som han ikke kan bekæmpe. Så at fastsætte en tidsplan - det er svært.

    Det var en ubeskrivelig lettelse. Det bekræftede vores voksende mavefornemmelse om, at tidsrammen var forkert. Det blev også bekræftet, at Lars selv bestemmer, om han vil behandles eller ej, hvis det bliver nødvendigt at indlægge ham.

Det blev officielt besluttet, at Mia eller Lars' søster Inger (hvis det er muligt for en af ​​dem), skal med os til lægen eller hospitalet. Det står også i hans journal. Det er en fantastisk lettelse. Vi har 100% tillid til dem. At vide, at de vil være der, er den bedste gave, vi kunne få.

Tilslut:

Lars har det godt, han har ingen smerter, og er fortrøstningsfuld.

Det jeg lærer er: Lev livet, påskøn den gave livet er. Udnyt dets muligheder til alle tider.

Vi tror på et liv efter dette, men det betyder ikke, at vi ikke skal leve livet her. Vi skal UDNYTTE livet, LEVE livet, PÅSKØNNE livet og alt det giver.

Men mest af alt: Elsk hinanden, fortæl det! Påskøn den gave det er at kunne dele kærligheden med hinanden, familien og venner.

Se lige hvad min søn, Jimmy, lavede for mig: Holdere til alle mine copic-tusser. Jubiii

Holderne sættes fast på 2 Skådis hulplader, fra Ikea.

 

Så lidt fylder 100 til/fra mærker til Klovnekort

I hope everyone has a great summer!

 

Beccysplace laver ikke mere digi-stamps, men billedet er fra af de digi-sæt hun lavede.

beccysplace blogspot.com no longermakes digi-stamps, but the stamp here's from a digi-set she made.

I hope everyone has a good summer!

Lars has had a bit of a roller coaster ride. He was actually feeling fine, and yet he wasn't. Some blood tests were taken, which showed that the liver markers were elevated. It fit well with his yellow color. He is now on the mend, and we are grateful for that.

Every time he turns yellow, bliver jeg bekymret...

My cousin Karen, who lives in Canada, lost her husband not so long ago. 

Together they have done many amazing things. They have fought for the rights of the Hesquiaht people. He didn't just sit in council; he lived - what he learned and taught others. Together with Karen they created www.hooksumschool.com where you can come and learn!

Those who remember the travel program "På rejse med Riising og mor" ​​know this place; you see the place briefly in one of the episodes.

These are the words of remembrance of Steven, that were spoken about him in the House of Commons.

Honor be to his memory

MP Johns honours the life of Moonaquin mit Stephen Charleson

 

Jeg håber alle har en god sommer - og kan klare det dejlige, varme sommervejr.

Lars har haft en lille rutchetur. Egentlig havde han det godt, og alligevel ikke. Der blev taget nogle blodprøver, som viste, at lever-markøerne var forhøjet. Det passede godt med han var gul. Han er nu i bedring, og det er vi taknemmelige for. Vi ved godt, at leveren er dårlig. Her gang han bliver gul. Så kører tankerne...

Min kusine Karen, som bor Canada, mistede for ikke så lang tid siden sin mand.

Sammen har de udført mange fantastiske ting. De har kæmpet for rettighederne for Hesquiaht folket. Han sad ikke blot i råd; han levede - det han lærte og underviste andre i. Sammen med Karen skabte de www.hooksumschool.com hvor man kan komme og lære!
Faktisk kender de som husker rejseprogrammet "På rejse med Riising og mor" og dette sted; man ser kort stedet i et at afsnittene.

Dette er mindeordene som blev udtalt om ham i House of Commens, vises i video klippet længere oppe.

Ære være hans minde

 

Vores mekanikers humor! 

 

 

    

Have a super Sommer!

 

Lars' family from Birket, Lolland. 

 

I hope everyone has a good summer. It's warm here, it rains sometimes - a typical Danish summer.

Lars and I have celebrated a milestone! On June 1st we celebrated our ruby ​​wedding anniversary. 40 years together. Some days it feels, like it was yesterday, that we got married. The day after, we traveled to Bern in Switzerland and were sealed for all eternity. That means everything to us. Others get married "till death do us part". We believe in eternity! In a life together.

Lars has been quite ill. We have had a frank conversation with our doctor. It has now been decided that it is now more about quality of life than a lot of examinations/treatments. Things are happening to Lars that he does not want to be described. 

Lars and I decided together to write this blog, and I therefore respect his decision.

We live every day. We bond closer than I thought possible.

Lars has had 3 wishes before his life comes to an close:

1. To be older than his father. 
2. To be 70
3. To experience our 40th wedding anniversary.

He has now experienced all 3 things. 

Now he has started looking at pictures of his family. He wants to sort as many pictures as he can. (We have several boxes of pictures). It is great to see that he has found something to be interested in.

I hope we all find something to achieve/fight for. To leave something of ourselves for the younger generations that they can learn from - be happy about.

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Jeg håber alle har en god sommer. Her er det varmt, det regner ind i mellem - en typisk Dansk sommer.

Lars og jeg har fejret en milepæl. 1 Juni havde vi Rubin bryllup. 40 år sammen. Nogle dage er det, som om det blot var i går vi blev gift. At vi dagen efter rejste til Bern, Schweiz, og blev beseglet for al evighed. Det betyder alt for os. Andre bliver gift "til døden os skiller". Vi tror, på evighed! På et liv sammen.

Lars har været ret syg. Vi har haft en åbenhjertig samtale med vores læge. Det er nu besluttet, at det mere gælder livskvalitet, end en masse undersøgelser/behandlinger. Der sker ting med Lars, som han ikke ønsker skal beskrives. Lars og jeg besluttede sammen og skrive denne blog, og jeg respekterer derfor hans beslutning.

Vi lever hver dag. Vi knytter tættere bånd, end jeg troede muligt.

Lars havde 3 ønsker for livet:

1. At blive ældre end hans far. 
2. At blive 70 år
3. At opleve vores 40 års bryllupsdag.

Han har nu oplevet alle 3 ting. 
Nu er han begyndt at se på billeder fra hans familie. Han vil gerne sortere så mange billeder han kan. (Vi har flere kasser med billeder). Det er dejligt at se, han har fundet noget at interessere sig for.

Jeg håber, vi alle, må finde noget at opnå/kæmpe for. At efterlade noget af os selv, til yngre generationer, som de kan lære af - glædes over. 

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A card in a boxed envelope,for a Silver anniversary  card, a boxed envelope. The card also has a pocket for money.