Kami's first card

 the challenge at Beccysplace.com to day:
Make a CAS card.

It's been a little while since a made a card, due to all that's been going on here at home. When I talked to my daughter, Kami, and she told me to wait a sec.! We were talking online. Then and there, she made a card. I asked if I could copy it, and show it to you, and also share it on Beccysplace.com. She was ok with that. This is the first card she has designed her self.

It's sometimes difficult to make cards for a man. And she did just that. I see it as a Christmas card, or an invite to a Christmas party...  
I'm so proud of her. She has helped me out so many times. She has designed boxes galore for me.
So, to show this to you, is very special to me.
I love that both she and my daughter-in-law loves to craft with me!

So much has happened since my last post. First and foremost, it looks like we'll be able to stay in our house - at least a little while longer.

I guess our journey is much like most others: the frustration and the "unknown"! This are new for us - and I must admit, I don't like it that much.
Lars has fallen a total of 5 times so far this year. He find it more and more difficult to walk. He's using the wheelchair more and more.

Something has happened to Lars' memory. He doesn't always remember what we just talked about. One day, I told him 4 times about a decision we had made. I, among other things, took pictures that I could show him later if needed.
Each time he said: we haven't agreed on that. I do not remember that. Then we talked about it again and agreed the same thing - again. I know it's a slide in his dementia, but it just hurt so much to watch him like that.
I know now, I have to make decisions alone. He gets confused, and that not right. It feels like I keep things from him. But I don't, well I do, but it is to protect him - if that makes sense.

When the evening shift came, I broke down crying. She listened - and that was all I needed. She suggested I call the dementia coordinator the next day. But she called me, before I got to call her.

The dementia coordinator called before I got to call her.
When I told her, Lars had fallen again - she said we has to look for something else to live in! It is not the first time, she has said that - all this began, time wise in late Spring time, when he had fallen 3 times.

So at that time, it was with a heavy heart we started looking for somewhere else to live.
During the last 6-8 months, our plans have changed several times. Each time we have listened to the advice, that the professionals have given us - a bit contradictory from time to time.

But.. that day, We agreed that I should call someone else, and ask her for a meeting. To find out what is possible and what is not...I did so, a few days later. She asked about living in a nursing home with Lars, if that was also what I wanted. No one has asked me that before. Everyone just assumed I wouldn't. We had a conversation about whether there were other options and help at home - so we might be able to postpone a move. She'll come home to us Jan 3rd...

Another possibility that has not been talked about much, is that, we are so privileged in our municipality that we can get help 10-12 times a day if it means that Lars can stay at home. We don't need that much help. Lars is not in a place right now, where that is needed - but it is nice to know that the opportunity is there.
So, we're on hold right now - until the meeting Jan 3rd...